Updated: Dec 5, 2022
The most confident and happy people we know are the ones who have high self-worth. But how did they get that way? Are some people just born with a better sense of value? Or do they make practice acting a certain way, which helps to keep them feeling positive about who they are?
When you talk to people with high self-worth, you find that they have a lot of things in common. Those who feel good about themselves tend to think a certain way; they think of life as half full and tend to look at things on the bright side. Let's look at a few of the ideas which keep people feeling worthy even when life might be difficult.
They Understand Where Mistakes Fit
Everyone messes up now and again. The person with self-worth recognizes this. They take responsibility for their actions and understand that just because something went wrong, it doesn't change who they are as a person. They still value themselves even when they make a mistake. They learn that they can overcome these mistakes, they can try again and let go of the past.
They Don't Get Caught up in the Trappings of Life
Who you are has a whole lot less to do with what you have than you might think. It doesn't matter how much money is in your bank account, whether you are wearing the right clothes or if you have the "right" education. Your value has a lot more to do with who you are inside than who you are outside. You can still be worthy even if you have very little in the way of possessions or money. Be content where you are while you are learning what you need to do in order to grow into where you want to be in your life.
They Don't Chase Happiness
You have very little to do with whatever emotion you happen to be feeling at the moment. If you are not happy, it does not mean that you are not worthy period. You're going to feel what you're going to feel. Individuals with high self-worth realize this and accept their emotions for what they are: a reflection of their emotional state and not of personal value. Happiness is not the same as contentment. One can be happy for a moment but still not feel worthy of love, being in the right career or even loving themselves. Happiness comes from within and knowing thy self makes a huge difference in having a healthy self-worth.
They Take Responsibility for How They Feel
When you have strong feelings of self-worth, you do not need other people to define you. This also means you need to drop any victim mentality. They say no one can make you feel anything without your permission. This is truer than you might realize. It's up to you to decide who you are. No one else has this right.
Of course, there are other things people with high self-worth do. They practice empathy, especially with themselves. They love their job and set goals that make sense to them. The common thread? They do things that honor them. They don't make compromises or get caught up in doing what they think they 'should' but instead focus on what's right for them.
You can do this, too, by merely paying attention to your choices and holding fast to who you are.
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